Talking With Mary (The Mother of God) About Your Problems

I go to a spiritual director monthly.  I find I need to see her more than I do my dentist or doctor.  Health of my soul is the most important aspect of my life. Recently I was highly troubled about a relationship issue.  I was also troubled about an event that happened in the past.  I shared these things with my spiritual director.  She suggested that I find a time and talk to Jesus, Mary and St Frances Cabrini about these issues.  So I did. On a beautiful September afternoon I sat on my deck and wrote a letter that I read to those particular holy people.  Jesus, and Mary are probably obvious choices.  St. Frances Cabrini is a personal favorite of mine.  Her feast day is my birthday.

I wasn't really sure what this would do. But, I am an obedient direct-ee, so I found a time and did this exercise. The surprising thing for me was that I immediately felt lighter. I resolved years of anguish.  I was able to forgive.

I have come to believe that when an idea that I haven't previously thought of pops into my head during prayer and it is a positive or consoling idea, that idea is divinely inspired.  When I was talking to Mary the idea popped in that the person who had done the past thing that had stuck with me so long probably did it because they were ashamed.  They couldn't face me so they did something that ultimately hurt me worse.  I don't know if this is true.  But, it was what Mary told me and it makes sense and it makes it possible for me to forgive and largely get over the hurt, so it was a good thing.  I was tired of carrying around that hurt and other things I had done and prayers I had prayed had not helped as much. Praise God!

For the other thing, the relationship issue, when I was talking to Mary about my hurt in that instance she reminded me of something I had forgotten about the other person.  That memory changed my perspective on the person.  It gave me insights into the behavior and a new approach to take.  Will it help?  I hope so.  It can't hurt.

I pray to God.  I worship and adore God.  Sometimes in prayer God has answers for me.  But, I have found talking to Mary, a real woman who lived a real life among people who had all the frailties and problems of life can give me real insights into situations.  I find comfort in Mary's wisdom. And I will talk about Mother Cabrini another time.  We often have a laugh together.