Any way I say it, a potato is still a potato. It doesn't even matter how I spell it. Still a lowly earth vegetable, is a potato. Lots of things are that way. It is what it is what it is. Renaming it doesn't change it one iota. So, though the potato doesn't change, I can.
I have been revisiting my life, the choices I make, the mistakes, the way I react, the things I believe. I can and must change. But, for me at least, change isn't easy. I have many outstanding qualities but, among the characteristics that have caused me grief are that I am a pleaser. I want people to like me. I have poorly maintained boundaries, I let myself be stomped all over. I see this at work and other places.
Being a pleaser isn't bad, not being assertive or a whiner is not bad. It is not bad to be unselfish. These character defects can also be strengths. Nothing wrong with a potato no matter how you spell it or pronounce it, but it does need a little cleaning up and preparation to become a thing of beauty and a joy forever.
So, I am working on scrubbing up my defects and figuring out how to turn them around and to become the person I want to be. What kind of potato do I like?