The lovely and talented Dawn hosts this feature to encourage thoughts on faith. And although she is not hosting this week, I have already planned a 101 Wednesday. So here it is, an orphan.
I have pondered the fine point between being righteous and judgemental and giving tacit approval to sin. And who am I to judge sin? Well, I'm nobody. But still in trying to live a moral and upright life there have been clear distinctions in some areas, it seems to me. Aren't some things still sins? At what point am I condoning sin and what point am I being judgemental?
The first area of discernment seems to me the command to put on love. Be loving to all. Obviously I am not called to make disparaging comments or gossip or even yell about the sin I might see. But am I called to bring up what I see to the sinner? Am I called to mention it? Or should I ignore it? Or should I avoid the person who is in the midst of sin?
Let's say for example that my friend or cousin moved in with her boyfriend. Would that not be sin? Might I mention to that person that she should get married or live apart? If she were talking about marriage, might I not encourage her to marry in the church and go through preparations required by the church instead of a civil ceremony or to be married by somebody on a beach at some holiday destination? Might I want to encourage the grace and blessings involved in the holy sacrament of marriage? Would it depend on how close I was to that person and whether the topic came up?
I have pondered these questions lately. At what point am I being friendly and encouraging to a fellow sojourner in life and at what point am I allowing that person to think that I think what I see is absolutely okay with me? And should it be okay, or should I be bothered? I keep reminding myself to put on love. But in this case, what is the loving choice?
Thus is the dilemma of Christianity.